I'm Comin' Home.

Well I sure haven't blogged for a long time.  My sister is starting a blog and I am helping her start one.  While doing that we were checking out my blog and I decided to post again since I haven't for a long time.  I have now completed my second year of college and enjoying some home time.  This last semester has been so fun.  It was hard doing school work because I just wanted to play all the time but I have learned a lot.  Being a marriage and family major I take a lot of classes on marriage and families but also how people develop and why people act they way they do.  I have had so much fun in these classes and really have learned some interesting stuff.  This up coming semester is going to be a busy one with 15 credits and coordinator over work.  I also applied to be a manager in this service group we have on campus so we will see how that goes.  While here at home though we are going to be doing a little stay-cation.  I love these and I cannot wait for the bliss to hang out with my family for some time.
~m

We Are Family.

Divorce and then remarriage can be a hard thing.  I have never been through it or known anyone close who has been through it but learning about it makes me ache for the people who do go through it.  When this happens there is a lot to take in.  You are now combining two new lives together again and then there may be kids involved as well.  Even though it is hard it is possible.  Parents will need to learn of the new roles with raising the kids if kids are brought in.  It is being married again but people may be more aware of things.  It is possible and the new families can be happy together just as before.  Families are forever and our Father in heaven wouldn't want us living a life we don't like but we should always try to make things work out and have divorce be a last option.  It is hard work but it can be done.
~m

Angels We Have Heard On High.

It's such a blessing to know that we have people of a higher power watching over us.  We are not alone on this earth, we all have guardian angels protecting us.  Sometimes things just happen and you have no way of explaining it.  It's also good to realize that is you are having a problem you can't handle, there is someone to watch over and help you.  With family problems a lot of people, including myself, turn to the Lord.  The Lord has such great power that we could not comprehend.  When life is getting bad you sometimes have to put your trust in the Lord and know that what will happen will happen.  We also need to be always listening to the Spirit.  With trying to raise a child you may not know what to do but I know if you pray and ask for that help then you will be able to receive it.  We will always be taken care of.
~m

Mother I love you, Mother I do.

Being raised by my mother has been so important to me.  My Dad was there too but my mom was a stay at home mom growing up.  I remember her being there until about junior high and I remember how that affected me too.  Not having my mom their when I got home from school was weird because she wasn't there to ask me how my day ways.  I would go over to my friends house and sit with her until my mom got home so that I could talk to her.  It wasn't a horrible thing but those couple of years I missed it.
For me I know it is important to be there for my children.  If I don't teach my children then someone else will and it may be stuff that I don't agree with.  Sometimes you do need the extra help but it is important for children to have their parents.
Another example is when my oldest sister was born she was watched by my Aunt while my mom and dad worked.  Well one day my sister called my Aunt Mom and my mom said nope and that was the end of that.  She quit her job and then raised four children.
I love my parents and for always being there for me.  I am really close to them and the older we are all getting as siblings and parents we are able to become more like friends and not just a parent/child relationship.  Again I know that is because they were around while growing up, and still now, in everything we do.
~m

This is real, this is me.

Oh my I feel like I am on cloud nine right now!  But not from being in love with a man but for being in love with my major.  My Family relations class is truly amazing.  It is so cool to be having a hard time with something or understanding something in life, but don't worry this class helps me to figure it out.  Today we talked about how to counsel with others and that everyone needs to be involved in it not just you or whoever is head making the decisions.  Here at BYU-Idaho I am the Relief Society of my ward.  I would kind of take charge or also not know what to do.  Today though I opened my minds more of that the other girls can help just as much as I could, they can receive revelation to help as well.
Being able to counsel can help in families just as much.  If there is big major issues you can sit down as a family and together hear everyone's thoughts and what they think.  It is good to have that bond of making choices together as a family and not have one person, this can be important to have a family unified and have peace.  We should have a special time and place to hold these meetings. Start with talking about how much you appreciate that person and what they do.  A pray is always good to have as well so that the Lord's presence can be there to make the best outcome for your family.  Talk about what is going on and try to come to a conclusion and then make sure to thank the Lord afterwards to help you.  Bring a little bit a chocolate for afterwards so that you can talk afterwards and enjoy some chocolate together.
Learning all of this makes me excited to help better my family in the future and also the one I have now even though I don't live with them at home anymore.  I can't wait to keep learning and so that I can hopefully help people in their lives as well.
~m

Bad things happen to good people.

I have this neighbor who just passed away from a stroke and then being in a coma for a couple of days.  It was/is hard, she left behind a husband who is a new bishop and five young kids.  This family has been through so much.  One son had cancer and another son got stepped on by a horse and now this.  When this happened the question of 'why' was running through every bodies head.  Now I know God has a plan for everyone but sometimes it just gets hard.  We talked about why bad things happen to good people the other day in class and the stress it causes.  With all of this happening they are still able to remain strong and have good faith and carry on even though it is something extremely sad and hard.  Looking back and thinking on it now you can turn to see these in the light of blessings.  The son who had cancer, was healed and has been cancer free for a couple of years, the son whose head was stepped on a horse survived and is just fine now with no side affects.  As for the mother, if she was to come out of a coma and survive she could of easily had brain damage which could of been hard on the family.  Sometimes it is hard to see the bright side in a stressful situation but it depends on how you look at it and to always remember that God has a plan and in the end it will be the best for us.
~m

Going Courtin'.

Marriage is such a big step in life and it should be taken that way, in steps.  First comes the dating, then comes the courtship, then the engagement then the wedding.  When thinking of dating you should be dating around, dipping your toe in the water.  When you find someone with someone who you could see marrying then you take it to the courtship.  In a courtship though, it should be for marriage, that is President Hinkley told us.  The engagement is a very important step to come next.  You are taking that step saying, "I want to commit to you" which is huge.  Try to make the engagement a good one though, it will give you something to look back on when times are hard.  During this don't just plan for the wedding day but plan for marriage.  You are combined two lives together and that will bring changes you might of never thought of, so prepare for those.  Then the wedding, what a happy day.  But struggles will be all around and in order to keep the marriage alive you have to work on it.  When your marriage is having troubles, work on it, don't let divorce be an choice, unless very needed.  This is a sacred blessing and needs to be cared with more respect.
~m